High school relationships - Destined to fail? - Page 2

thiswine41 · 07-12-2009, 11:15 PM

Lol, well most parents just stay together for their kids. But if they're already causing the kid trauma and such, maybe it's better for them to separate.

Anyway, I don't really believe in soulmates. You can't really find them, you make them.

XshadowadamX · 07-12-2009, 11:19 PM

I'm still in high school.
i'm 17. and i'm about to be a senior in high school.
I'm still with my girlfriend of a year now.
It's a long time in the high school world. haha.
But...idk how much longer it's gunna last.. D: I mean, i'm loosing that spark for her.
Honestly idk what's gunna happen. Mostly they don't work out. Mine has been for the most part. But at the moment it's been going down hill.

Cody! · 07-12-2009, 11:19 PM

At my school (i'm 15) relationships don't last long I went out with 5 different girls over the span of 7 months longer than an average relationship, so as I see soul-mate at 15 unless you're talking about a fantasy anime or movie or book no it's not logical for someone that young to know exactly what they need

Hodizzle · 07-12-2009, 11:21 PM

I mean you and TOm are still together, and I've seen quite a few other old friends on FB that have married their high school sweethearts, but I'd say usually it doesn't work out.

G.I.R. · 07-12-2009, 11:28 PM

I'm 17 and about to be a senior.

I started dating my ex of two years when I was a freshman, right before turning 15. It was amazing, I thought I was in love, and I never did lose that 'spark'. Before I had to move last year, we even had eventual plans on staying together, about the future. But I moved, we tried making the distance work, and after a while I just couldn't take it. That, and he cheated on me before it was finally broken off.

Now, I've been with my current boyfriend exactly 8 months now, and we're taking it a step at a time. We joke around about what the future might be like, and since he's going off to college in a few months, we already agreed that our relationship would turn into an 'open' one as long as we at least tell each other what's going on. May backfire, may not, but we're prepared for both (and if we do end up staying together for the long run, BOTH of us agreed that we're getting tested for everything beforehand xD)

Truly, the whole high school relationship not only depends on the actual people, but the situations you have to deal with. If you're constantly dealing with stress at home, or you're thrust into a different state, obviously things are going to be much harder, and not many can handle both at once. If the situations weren't there, the same people likely would have had a better shot.

Truly, I think I might still be with my ex if it weren't for the fact that I had to move across the country. We're still really close.

Oops · 07-12-2009, 11:28 PM

I went to an all girls school, I had trouble meeting guys and had my first serious relationship at 19, I'm 21 now and we're still together. Infact, we live together...

I always see young couples proclaiming their love for each other then breaking up two weeks later, so despite not having the experience to judge properly, I don't believe many relationships during that age should be taken seriously.

My boyfriend got engaged at 18, which I find intimidating, but he is always saying "it meant nothing, i was young and stupid".

My Dad married his high school sweetheart in his late-40s after my parents divorced, but the marriage did not last more than a year.

Tsubasa · 07-13-2009, 12:41 PM

There are some people who actually end up marrying their highschool sweethearts (I know of one couple), but most of the time, it doesn't work out. The personalities of teenagers are unstable and at that point in life, most aren't even sure of what they want yet. They're just messing around to learn more about themselves.

~~*Kinky*~~ · 07-13-2009, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by thiswine41

Lol, well most parents just stay together for their kids. But if they're already causing the kid trauma and such, maybe it's better for them to separate.

Anyway, I don't really believe in soulmates. You can't really find them, you make them.

Yeah I think my mom is suffering more than me- because I don't talk to him either. But it bothers her more than me.. I used to care when I was younger, but now I don't reallly give a damn anymore.

I never really got the concept of soulmates; but I always thought it was BS.

bawksie · 07-13-2009, 10:19 PM

I think a good amount of the people who get married to their highschool sweethearts end up getting divorced.
Considering they don't know anything else, they just stuck with the first person to give them love.

Not to mention half of all marriages fail anyways.

I R0ck · 07-17-2009, 05:28 AM

I am turning 17 in just over a month, and I am going into my senior year in high school. I have had 3 real relationships, 1 is ongoing. The first one ended badly, and I have come to realize that all we did was fuck around. The second one just ended, no hard feelings. Myself and the girl I am with now just celebrated our 6 month, which is a bit in high school.

I can not say whether or not they are destined to fail, because I am fairly biased. I hope this relationship works out, and that's all I have to say.