High school relationships - Destined to fail?

**Mrs. Morris** · 07-12-2009, 09:09 AM

Alright, just wondering what you all think about high school relationships. Teen love. Puppy love. Highschool sweethearts. Whatever you want to call it.

First off, how old are you/are you still in highschool? I think this could make your opinion biased, so where do YOU stand in the situation?

Personally, I graduated 4yrs ago. I'm 21 now.

I don't really believe that high school relationships, for the most part, work out. You're young, you're naive, EVERYTHING is dramatic to kids these days it seems. You date a guy for 2 days and he's the love of your life and you're planning your wedding and how many kids you'll have. A few more days later and you dumped the prick for cheating on you. Pick up a new guy, cycle starts again.

Now this isn't to say they NEVER work out....Sure theres a few cases. I know a couple of them myself. Not many though. Most people that I know now from highschool don't even talk to their highschool sweethearts and are now dating some guy they met in a club or in college.

So, do you think they're destined to fail? Can people really find their soul mates at....say, 15yrs old?

tealeaf · 07-12-2009, 02:23 PM

I think it depends on the person. At that age, most kids want to, literally, fuck around and experiment. But there are those that have their lives planned and are looking for others with their lives planned out. It depends on the person :o

I am 18 and starting second year of college.

bawksie · 07-12-2009, 05:57 PM

Well, I think most highschool relationships are meant for failure. All the same reasons you said.

You could meet your soul mate when you are young and fall in love and be together forever.
Hell anything is possible.

But 99% is failure.

I am 16 and in highschool. xx-oo

PrettyCoolGuy · 07-12-2009, 06:06 PM

High school relationships are all about having fun and learning things

Quit thinking that every relationship you're in needs to work out and last forever.

It's like driving a car. When you first learn, it's not going to be easy. It's going to be choppy, if you're driving a manual you're probably going to stall a lot. Down the road though, give it a couple tries, and you may have it down.

Relationships are the same way.
I'm almost 16 and going to be a junior by the way

thiswine41 · 07-12-2009, 06:06 PM

Most of them fail. Even if one of the couple is serious, it would still fail if the other one is fucked up. And usually, most people are fucked up. So there's really a small a chance a serious one would get a serious partner. Like a blue lobster looking for a blue lobster.

**Ruzzeh** · 07-12-2009, 06:07 PM

At my old school, it was k-12th grade so yahknow everyones known eachother forever and stuff.
Not sure if that affects it at any point or not,
But a good majority of our high school relationships have lasted for years, and some are still going.
But then again, I haven't been to another high school so I don't know how it works out.
So yeah,
I think that high school relationships can work out c:.

**Mrs. Morris** · 07-12-2009, 06:19 PM

Haha. In our school, there were a FEW people you know from elementary, and usually they weren't people you still talked to.

In our school it seemed like people just dated to say they had a bf/gf. When I was younger I thought, why date if you're not going to at least try to be serious about it? otherwise, whats the point? Just to get laid?

Well now that a few people have posted....

My personal experience with highschool dating:

Got my first boyfriend in highschool, and I remember planning how many kids we were going to have and everything. Obviously I was naive, and being my first bf, I was kinda excited about it. But of course he was a cheater, he broke up with me and asked me out several times, I always said yes. Somewhere while I wasn't dating him, this other guy asked me out...I didn't really know him too well, I just said yes to be nice I guess. Ended up breaking up with him 6 days later to go back out with the first guy.

Finally I got fed up with his cheating and broke up with him. Not too much longer later I started getting to know another guy and hanging out with him. We met in October, and by December he had asked me to go out with him.

We never had any fights like couples do...We never broke up or took "time outs" the way I always seen people do. That was when I was 15. Here it is going on 7yrs later, we got married 3yrs ago, and we're still going strong. xD

So I think it's safe to say our highschool sweatheart relationship worked out. lol. And even though it worked for us, I still can't help but to laugh at kids who swear theirs will.

~~*Kinky*~~ · 07-12-2009, 06:33 PM

Usually they fail. But my parents have been together since they were 14 and they are like 45 now and they are ready to kill eachother >_>

Anyway, I have been with my boyfriend for a year.. but hey thats only a year.

I guess it depends on the person, the couple- how mature they are. It all depends.
But the majority probably fail, because one of them is a whore and cheats. xD And tons of other reasons

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he broke up with me and asked me out several times, I always said yes. Somewhere while I wasn't dating him, this other guy asked me out...I didn't really know him too well, I just said yes to be nice I guess. Ended up breaking up with him 6 days later to go back out with the first guy.

I swear.
I promise.
That exact thing happened with me, but he didn't cheat on me (that I know of), he just broke up with me all the time and went out with this other chick; he cheated on her with me, or someshit.

And this guy liked me - and he asked me out so I said yes, and then I broke up with him 3 days later.... for the other guy.

D: SCARY because my story is so alike yours. xD

anywayy.
And I have been with my boyfriend for a year, we see eachother every day and we text all the time.

So we fight.
ALOT.
Nothing physical, but we argue about the stupidest crap. Its really bad for our relationship, but 2 seconds later we are over it and back to getting along. But I think its not really fighting, its just getting irritated, and annoyed. And little arguements about what we are gonna do/what to eat - and he says I am on the computer to much, I will agree with him; but I still bitch about it.

And I wouldn't call it puppy love, I hate when people say that. xD I do have feelings for him, I do love him, maybe I can even say I'm 'in love' with him. I don't think I am naive - I know a lot of guys cheat, and they are assholes. And you can't change them.

My mom has tried to change my dad forever. but its not gonna happen.
It will never ever happen.

X-X

I don't think that me and him will last forever, but I think that we will always be friends - and he will always be in my heart. Because hes one of my friends too.. Best friends...

I think he will have a really hard time losing me though. XD YOU ALL WOULD HAVE TO KNOW HIM.

thiswine41 · 07-12-2009, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Morris

We never had any fights like couples do...We never broke up or took "time outs" the way I always seen people do.

That's so good. When a couple fights a lot, and I mean A LOT. I think they're just not compatible and has to give up.

I think when one of the couple or both of them, decided for a "time out", the relationship would most likely fail in the end. Especially when they do time out a lot.

For me, one of the few secrets for having a long lasting relationship, is to think that your partner is already your spouse, that you always have to fix the problem with if you have any, instead of doing a "time out". Just always keep in mind that your partner and your relationship is your priority and responsibility. Not like a game you can pause/off or put in sleep mode, whenever it made you pissed. But that's just me. Others may think that doing time outs is better. But for me it's not.

~~*Kinky*~~ · 07-12-2009, 06:43 PM

My parents fight all the time. They don't talk anymore, so I don't think they need to be together anymore. >_>

I fight with my boyfriend maybe 2 times a week. Big fights never happened, and we have never stopped talking to one another or "took a break".

I guess fighting all the time would be bad. But when we fight its really stupid and pointless.

And I don't know if a 15 year old could get their soulmate .. xD I doubt it. Usually every relationship eventually ends.