Would you take him/her back? - Page 2

koorbiten · 03-27-2009, 08:05 PM

I would prob take back, im a very forgiving person even when i dont want to be. Guess it would have to depend on how long the relationship was going as well, and how long it was going to continue afterward, fling or more type of situation

virusdetected · 03-28-2009, 09:43 AM

If you think about it logically, if you have been cheated on, what's the point of holding an actual relationship with them? If they just want a fuck, keep it that way and break off any emotional attachment, it works out much better that way. If they cheated once, they will do it again. And if someone's a cheater, there's a 90% chance that they will cheat on you if the proper occassion arises. Think about it, why would a cheater not cheat if they were to believe they could completely get away with it?

neoaddict412 · 03-28-2009, 02:09 PM

I would totally ditch 'em. If a person has lied to you once about something that big, chances are they're hiding other things.

**Mrs. Morris** · 03-28-2009, 05:53 PM

That's the thing though.....If they told you about it, they obviously didn't lie about it. And that's what the question is, if they TOLD you about it would you take them back?

**Hodizzle** · 03-29-2009, 04:21 PM

Just because someone cheats once, DOES NOT mean they will do it again. I cheat one time and only one time. I felt so damn guilty especially since I waited so long to tell him (a month), but there were extenuating circumstances that led to that one time. I'm not saying that makes it right, but in means that I wouldn't have cheated otherwise. you really have to take the situation into account if your thinking about actually being with them. Was it a fling? Was it an ex? Was it a ongoing relationship?

A relationship behind my back would be completely unacceptable to me and I would not take the person back. If they cheated one time with their ex, I would be liking to depending on the circumstances. If it was a one time fling, that would also depend on the circumstances.

virusdetected · 03-30-2009, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Hodizzle

Just because someone cheats once, DOES NOT mean they will do it again. I cheat one time and only one time. I felt so damn guilty especially since I waited so long to tell him (a month), but there were extenuating circumstances that led to that one time. I'm not saying that makes it right, but in means that I wouldn't have cheated otherwise. you really have to take the situation into account if your thinking about actually being with them. Was it a fling? Was it an ex? Was it a ongoing relationship?

A relationship behind my back would be completely unacceptable to me and I would not take the person back. If they cheated one time with their ex, I would be liking to depending on the circumstances. If it was a one time fling, that would also depend on the circumstances.

And if those same circumstances came along again when you last cheated, would you do it again? What if they were stronger then last time?

Boink · 03-30-2009, 11:18 AM

I too dont believe the once a cheater always a cheater, I mean people make mistakes, plus if they told me it was probably because they were feeling guilty about it which I would respect.

I wouldnt say I would automatically take them back or break up with them, it would definitely depend on what they did and who they did it with and what was going on in our relationship at the time. There would be a price to pay though, I just dont know if I would take it as far as to break up with them, I just cant reason with giving up a million good memories for one bad one but then again I have never really been in a situation like that so I dont know first hand =/

TheDarkAngel · 03-30-2009, 11:31 AM

Well, If my girlfriend did that then I would forgive them, but if they do it again I would break up with her. (Unless of course it was the girl of my dreams, 3 strike policy :P)

joker6167 · 03-30-2009, 08:12 PM

Honestly I don't know. If it was like a one time kind of thing there is a small chance that I would keep them but it would be heart broken.

I would also get them tested for any kind of disease. Also I would be so weary about where they go who they see and what they do.

The whole trust tower par say would be knocked down and they would have to rebuild it from ground up.

jayzemnm · 04-01-2009, 01:20 PM

I wouldnt. trust is the biggest aspect of any relationship