Would you take him/her back?

**Zombie** · 03-23-2009, 08:11 PM

So, let's say you were in a relationship with someone and it has been going well. You're both really getting along, and you both just keep getting closer to each other.

A little into the relationship, they pull you aside and confesses that they cheated on you in some point of the relationship. Obviously you're going to be hurt, but this person just admitted it to you in the risk of losing it all.

Would you take them back? Or would you end it there?

**Ruzzeh** · 03-23-2009, 08:14 PM

I wouldn't.
Every relationship I have been in I have been cheated on ( BY A GUY D<)
What I've learned from that is they may say sorry for it. But they do it again and again :(

**Zombie** · 03-23-2009, 08:15 PM

Most of my relationships have ended like that as well, but I give people the benefit of the doubt.
If someone admits it to my face, I'll give them a second chance.

Pedantic · 03-23-2009, 08:27 PM

While I would certainly rather be told by my partner then find out from someone else, I wouldn't continue the relationship.. Because It would color everything from there on in. I'd probably get so paranoid that he/she would cheat again. Or is already cheating again.

The trust would be gone and is impossible to get back again. No matter how hard you'd try.

Besides, doesn't cheating in the first place prove that something is lacking in the relationship?

ToxicTripp · 03-25-2009, 03:47 AM

As much as it seems so right to say 'end it',
I'd be a hypocrite if I did, I've been in a relationship
for four years, been cheated on over 5 times,
And I'll be marring said-cheater next year. :]
Oh love is so peachy.

**Tsubi** · 03-26-2009, 05:35 AM

I'm a zero-tolerance for cheaters kind of person. I mean, if they honestly loved you, would they have cheated on you in the first place? Sure, they are being honest in telling you, but they shouldn't have cheated on you in the first place.

I wouldn't take them back. Ever.

Poccaro · 03-26-2009, 05:35 AM

Dump them. Infidelity is a moral crime. If they loved you so much, why would they abandon you and have a fling with somebody else? People who cheat are lower than dirt IMO. And once somebody cheated on me, I would not want to have anything to do with them again.

virusdetected · 03-27-2009, 12:13 AM

I would tell them to fuck themselves. If it was a longer termed relationship, well, I would still tell them to fuck themselves, but I would take them back. Although I've learned that's just a stupid thing to do. Things just aren't the same.

Hodizzle · 03-27-2009, 12:24 AM

I don't know what I'd do honestly, but I feel like I would take them back if it was only once. I cheated on one of my boyfriends in the past, and I told him (about a month after the fact :/), and he forgave me, and dealt with it very well. I wouldn't be able to deal with it nearly as well as he did, but I'd like to think I would give someone one chance.

**Mrs. Morris** · 03-27-2009, 08:49 PM

My first boyfriend constantly cheated on me...Out of what was probably 7 times that I said 'yes' when he asked me out, I have no doubt that he was with someone else as well as me every single time.

Since he was my first boyfriend, I really just didn't get it...So I just kept letting him come back.

I think that the situation made me more open about it, because the part that hurt was that he lied to me constantly. Right now I feel like truth and honesty are the most important part of my own relationship, and I think that if your significant other cheated once, and told you about it, then he obviously has guilt about it.

I also think it depends on the situation. Why did he cheat? What sort of situation was he in? I would take all that into factor as well is how long after the fact he told you he cheated, and how he told you.

Does he at least SOUND like he was sorry? Did he tell you the next morning, or a long while later?

If it happens more than once though, then I don't think he's taking the relationship seriously enough, and I wouldn't put up with it.....

But, personally, like I said, I'm very open and forgiving about that sort of thing in my own situation, but oddly enough I have very negative feelings towards guys I know cheating on someone else. While I know I can handle it, it hurts me to see a guy cheat on someone who genuinely cares about them. If I know a guy has a girlfriend, I have this urge to stay away from him. If said guy hits on me or anything, it burns me up inside, just makes me very angry. :(