How Strict Are Your Parents?

almightysmallest · 11-14-2009, 12:52 PM

So I'm 17 going on 18 and I got grounded this whole week for going over my "time limit" for the phone. I'm only allowed 1 hour on the phone each day after I do a massive amount of chores. The ONLY person I really use the phone to talk with is my boyfriend on the other side of the country who has the same cell phone service as me so we can talk for free whenever. -_- I'm not allowed to talk past 9PM, weekday or not. If I ever go out its only for a couple hours and I have to check in every 30 minutes. I also have one of those like tracking things on my phone so they know where I go. They also have keylogger so they know what I type (Yeah, screw you) and they check up on all my calls/texts online. They do WAY more shit then this but this is all I can come up with right now. My parents are insane and I so cannot wait 'til I move about this Summer. I'm not even a bad kid. I get straight A's and will be attending college next year and I don't even hang around the bad crowd. ;P Never smoked or drank or anything else. (Mini rant)

So how crazy are your parents? Or how awesomely amazing are yours?
/I envy you guys with the cool, chill parents. :3

Tina · 11-14-2009, 12:55 PM

My parents just like to tell me I am screwing up my life lol. But yeah I want to do things my own way. I havn't lived at home in over 7 years so they havn't bothered me much lately

**Aethean** · 11-14-2009, 01:04 PM

Too many rules. Like I have to be home by 130 on weekends, even though all my friends stay out until 3-4, and some even get off work at 1. I bought a car and I still have to ask for permission to drive it anywhere, tell them where im going, who im going with, what im doing, the phone numbers of everyone im going with, how much im spending and when ill be back. My mom has way too many morals and bitches at me for downloading music because she doesn't 'want the police to raid the computers and throw my ass in jail', bitches at me for doing rolling stops, going 5+km/h over the speed limit etc. If I want to eat healthy food I have to buy it myself (hamburgers/hotdogs are a hell of a lot cheaper than chicken). Umm I have to pay for pratically everything, car, insurance, phone, food etc (not really considering this strict, but all my friends get their parents to pay for insurance/phone). So yeah I guess its not TOO TOO bad considering its a hell of a lot cheaper to live at home.

Also my mom bitched at me because I chose to go into a trade as opposed to college. Hmmm.

Howl · 11-14-2009, 02:07 PM

My parents have never been strict.
I've never been grounded or punished harshly, the worst I'd get was not being allowed on the computer until school time was over if I didn't attend (which was mainly due to my Dad's ex).
I've been going clubbing since I was 16, and been allowed out past 10 since I was 13.
Dad knows I drink a lot, and smoke, same goes for Mum.

I know that sounds like they don't care, but I haven't made a cock up of my life, never been in trouble with the authorities or anything like that, I'm in College, Uni next year and hope to train to become a Photography Lecturer later on.

Soyeah.

**Hale'iwa** · 11-14-2009, 02:12 PM

Uhmm, I don't live with my parents. I live with my aunt and uncle. My uncle is pretty strict about letting me spend the night, i have to call home at around 9 to check in (mostly he's making sure I'm not slurring my speech :/), it's a pain in the ass. It's alright though, it's not TOO hard to get around, and they're pretty cool.

**Ruzzeh** · 11-14-2009, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Hale'iwa

Uhmm, I don't live with my parents. I live with my aunt and uncle. My uncle is pretty strict about letting me spend the night, i have to call home at around 9 to check in (mostly he's making sure I'm not slurring my speech :/), it's a pain in the ass. It's alright though, it's not TOO hard to get around, and they're pretty cool.

In bell air?

Anyways my parents aren't strict at all really.
They have issuses with me going out and doing shit.
But they let me drink and smoke.

**tealeaf** · 11-14-2009, 03:23 PM

I trained my dad. My curfew used to be 5 PM. Yes. 5. But since lil ol me was at the mercy of the driver, I couldn't make it back until 3 am ;D I called in every half hour to tell him where I was at, what I was doing, and that I was ok.

Now he doesn't care how late I stay out...but I find it a courtesy to come back early because he waits up for me. And I find that if I go to bed early, I wake up early enough to go out for coffee xD

But I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I only engage in risky activities such as burning couches, destroying various electronics with various means (axes, picks, chains, rocks, gravity, etc). Nothing too major.

Uhh when I went over on texting, my dad got unlimited...I don't call anyone so that isn't an issue...

He is just mainly concerned with my well-being. And I graduated highschool a year early and went to college. I am starting my second year.

frapp · 11-14-2009, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by almightysmallest

I'm not even a bad kid. I get straight A's and will be attending college next year and I don't even hang around the bad crowd. ;P Never smoked or drank or anything else. (Mini rant)

And you have your parents to thank.

My parents were strict, ground me, spanked me, chores chores chores, stayed on my case, and cared. Then, like every other teenager, I thought 'omg my parents are so strict god leave me alone!!11!' But now I look back and in the end it really made me a better person. Sure, I still got into things that I shouldn't have, and when I got caught and grounded I think back and wondered what the fuck was I thinking anyways.

I have friends whose parents didn't really give a fuck and were more of their "friend" than a parent. They're still trying to learn the real world and the things they should have learned from their parents.

You should appreciate your parents for being good parents. Sure, it may seem a bit much most of the time, but you'll learn one day that it was all for the better.

almightysmallest · 11-14-2009, 07:32 PM

I semi-agree, Frapp. But the thing is I am TOO sheltered. I don't even order my own food at restaurants, I can't really go out on my own without being scared shitless, I'm about to be 18 and I have NO idea how in the world I'm going to survive. All my other friends are doing fine and are way more ready than I am to be out of the house and such. I'm afraid to leave because I don't think I can accomplish anything without my mommy holding my hand. I doubt that is something to be appreciative of. I'm not going to blame that on me because that definitely isn't my fault. I've TRIED being more independent but it doesn't work if my mom isn't near by.

I'm pretty sure I'm not a trouble kid because that's just not me. Like any teenager I could be doing whatever I like without my parents knowing because there is always a way and I have been in plenty of those situations where I could do something my parents don't approve up but I don't do them not because its wrong or my parents would be mad but because I just choose not to 'cause I don't feel the need to. I'll be moving to the other side of the country soon and my parents are going ballistic, but to me I feel like its my only way to break the tie I have with them and be independent on my own without having the ability to go to them for every little thing.

But who knows, maybe I am just the typical teenager who wants to rebel and distance themselves from their parents but I just think sometimes enough is enough and at my age what more can they really do. I have a pretty set personality and if I don't do things now, I probably won't ever do them. Maybe more freedom and independence would be nice, not completely forget I'm your child and let me run a muck.

**tealeaf** · 11-14-2009, 08:37 PM

Hun, seriously, you have straight As, meaning you are doing well in english. Use paragraph breaks, punctuation, something. I only got halfway through before my eyes went haywire...

I know you feel scared right now, but you aren't the only one to go through what you are going through. Once you immerse yourself in the world, you will know what to do. You won't get it the first time, or even the second, but guaranteed you will adapt.

The scariest part will be just jumping in and making friends. Once you have friends, you have it made because what your friends can't teach you, the internet can.